Which one are you?
A typical example( two individuals asked the same question)
“A- Are you coming to the party?
B- I was thinking what to wear… and it is raining, the food will be great, but it will get late , who else is coming, I hated their party last time…
A- Oh, ok so are you coming to the party or not?
B- Let me see… is it necessary?
A-No, it’s not necessary, so you need not come.
B-But when did I say I was not coming to the party??
A- So you are coming!
B- I am thinking, I can come…”
Wow! so vague… Bravo champion! 🏆
A- Are you coming to the party?
C- Yes. (Ha! Such a kill joy answer)
It is estimated that our brains receive information through our senses that result in some four billion neuron impulses per second. Of these four billion pieces of information we are only consciously aware of about 2,000. That’s only 0.00005%. So, we are allowed to be vague.
Vague answers are bound to trickle out of your mouth in the course of the day.I feel duty bound to think, rethink and double think, mostly with words pouring out when a decision or an opinion is onto me.In fact, a great deal of learning has gone into this vagueness. I was taught at work, afterall, that- ” if you can’t convince them, confuse them!”
But there are a few marvellous persons who are otherwise taciturn, but if they ever open their mouths to speak, its clear choices, opinions, verdicts or answers. Probably those who grew up knowing only black and white and not greys…
Those who ate sweet sweet-dishes and not salty caramel or Chipotle ice-creams!
Those who were taught only yes and no and not maybe.
It’s not that I don’t impart a lesson or two on being ‘clear’ , to my child, but I am proud of his ways with vagueness when he wants to avoid sticky situations like- ” between your father and mother, who do you love more?”
So how do you manage to be crisp and clear with such a real life existential question ? So the smart cookie hawed his way out of it. How difficult can it be… to be always clear and not float on the clouds of vagueness! Vague answers take a lot of effort, a lot of creativity and a lot of disinterest in clarity! Hope I am sounding clear…as clear as this Sun!